#478: Jedd Medefind — Your Phone Is Costing You More Than You Think

Oct 21

What if your phone isn't just stealing your time, but quietly changing the way you lead, think, and connect with the people who matter most?

In this episode of the Follow 2 Lead Podcast, Tony Miltenberger sits down with Jedd Medefind, president of the Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO) and author of Rule Your Tech So It Won't Rule You, for a conversation about technology, attention, spiritual formation, and the hidden costs of constant connectivity.

Jedd believes one of the greatest gifts a leader can offer is their presence. Not simply showing up, but bringing a sense of calm, hope, and genuine attentiveness to the people around them. Unfortunately, the technology we rely on every day is making that increasingly difficult.

Drawing from research, personal experience, and his work leading a global network of Christian organizations, Jedd explores how our devices influence our ability to focus, maintain healthy relationships, and experience peace. He also shares why technology itself isn't the enemy—and how small, intentional boundaries can help us reclaim what matters most.

From phone-free bedrooms to team-wide spiritual practices, this conversation offers practical encouragement for leaders who want to use technology wisely without allowing it to shape their priorities.

In this episode, you'll discover:

Why your presence may be the most valuable gift you offer as a leader.
How constant connectivity can undermine focus, calm, and meaningful relationships.
The three ways technology affects us: content, displacement, and brain formation.
Why technology boundaries matter for adults just as much as children.
How to recognize when your devices are making decisions about your attention.
What Jedd learned about leadership and collaboration while serving in the White House.
How shared spiritual practices can strengthen an organization's culture.
Why keeping your phone out of the bedroom can make a meaningful difference.
How small, consistent choices can help you become a more attentive, grounded, and Christ-centered leader.

Coaching Question

What is one boundary you could establish with technology this week that would help you become more fully present with God, your family, or the people you lead?

Connect with Jedd Medefind

Jedd Medefind serves as president of the Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO), a collaborative network of organizations committed to caring for vulnerable children. Previously, he served in the George W. Bush administration, including at the White House, helping advance the Faith-Based and Community Initiative.

His book, Rule Your Tech So It Won't Rule You, explores how intentional technology choices can protect our attention, relationships, and well-being.

CAFO Website: https://cafo.org/

Book: Rule Your Tech So It Won't Rule You — Available on Amazon

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