#470: Monika Kirkland — When You're Called to It but Can't Keep Carrying It
What happens when you know God called you to something—but you’re exhausted trying to carry it?
In this episode of the Follow 2 Lead Podcast, Tony Miltenberger sits down with author, podcaster, and speaker Monika Kirkland to talk about overwhelm, surrender, spiritual disciplines, and what happens when high-capacity leaders begin relying on their own strength.
Monika shares the wake-up call that forced her to reevaluate a very full life. She couldn’t simply walk away from her work, family, or responsibilities. Instead, she had to learn how to carry the same things from a different posture—moving from striving and self-reliance toward surrender and dependence on the Holy Spirit.
Tony and Monika also explore storytelling, creativity, discerning God’s voice, navigating seasons when He feels distant, and the message behind Monika’s book, Ever With You.
In this episode, you'll discover:
How to recognize when you’re white-knuckling your calling.
Why “Scripture before screens” can change the way you begin your day.
Simple spiritual disciplines for surrendering what you’re carrying.
Why feelings are valuable signposts—but shouldn’t make your decisions.
How wise counsel can bring clarity when the stakes are high.
Why creativity needs both discipline and freedom from pressure.
How to trust God’s nearness even when He feels far away.
Coaching Question
Where are you trying to carry a God-given calling in your own strength?
Connect with Monika Kirkland
Monika Kirkland is an author, podcaster, and speaker whose work explores intimacy with God and what it means to live an integrated life of faith. Her new book, Ever With You, is about becoming fully awake to the God who is near.
Website: monikakirkland.com
Instagram: @monikakirkland
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